Disconnection as Spiritual Blackmail
I have this friend, let’s call him Sam (I’ll mix up names, genders and details a bit to protect the innocent). Sam is a dedicated Scientologist, an OT, and a major contributor to the IAS, the SuperPower building, etc., etc. He raised his children in Scientology and was proud when his son and daughter joined the Sea Org.
Over the years, their visits and phone calls became fewer and fewer. Still, they assured him they were “doing great,” although they were vague about what they were actually doing.
Then one day he was shocked to hear that his daughter, let’s call her Mary, had blown the Sea Organization and had been declared suppressive. Sam was devastated as it meant he would have to disconnect from Mary. He couldn’t talk with her until she applied her A to E steps and got restored to good standing.
But Mary wasn’t about to do that. In fact, she was considering joining some other Ex-Sea Org members in a lawsuit claiming labor code violations, physical and emotional abuse while she had been in the Sea Org.
Sam was shocked. He trusted his daughter, he knew she was not a liar, but he could not believe the allegations. He began researching on the internet and was shocked at what he found. He got in touch with some Ex-Scientologists, former friends of his, and listened to their stories.
Enter the Church “negotiators.” They offered Sam and his daughter Mary a “deal.” If Mary would shut up about the abuses, and agree not to be part of any lawsuit, then her SP declare would be lifted. Her “freeloader debt” would be forgiven. She could be in touch with her family, even her brother, let’s call him Paul, who was still in the Sea Org. And Sam would be forgiven for his foray into forbidden websites and contacts if he gave the Church representatives all of the names of people he had contacted and what they had said. In other words, if he ratted them out.
And if Mary refused? She would never talk to her family again. Not only that, but they showed her a pleading letter from her brother. He had been removed from his post in the Sea Org and assigned to menial work as he was “PTS.” Please, he urged her, take the deal, otherwise he might be RPFed or offloaded.
Mary signed. She dropped the lawsuit. She shut up. Sam stopped contacting any Ex-Scientologists and gave the Church all their names. In other words, they folded to the pressure.
Can I blame them? No. They were under terrific pressure.
But what right does the Church have to play with our lives like that? What right do they have to grant or withhold our own communication with our loved ones? Who gave them that power?
It’s spiritual blackmail. What’s the difference between the Church’s behavior and a two-bit mobster shaking down shop owners for “protection” money?
Why do we agree to cut communication with our loved ones, our family, our children, based on the threats of the Church?
Why do we buckle under and agree not to speak about abuses and wrongnesses we see in the Church? Because we fear that power. The power to ruin our families.
Back in the 60s, we used to say, “what if they called a war and nobody came?”
Well, what if they called for a disconnection and nobody disconnected?